Anyone who lived through the 80’s Anyone who lived through the 80’s will remember Nancy Reagan’s “Just Say No” to drugs campaign. For this Self Care Sunday, we’re going to repurpose that catchy slogan. “Just Say No” to things you don’t want to do. This week we practice setting boundaries.
I am not the first person to point out how easy it is to say “yes” to things we don’t want to do, but I do think it is an important reminder. Women have been expected to smile and accommodate since the beginning of time, and it can be easy to forget how unhealthy this is. I will admit to sometimes saying “yes” when I mean “no” because in the moment, it seems easier. Although easier in the moment, it has eaten away at me over time.
Reminder- you are a unique, precious spirit who deserves to be nourished and cared for. Strip away all of your roles- mother, daughter, wife, employee, etc- and you are left with the essence of the individual that is you. That individual has likes, preferences and needs. (If you’ve forgotten who that person is, revisit your younger self.) When we agree to do things we don’t want to, we take away essential time for ourselves.
When I spoke to my husband about this topic, he initially responded with “well some of us have to work to pay the bills. Just because I don’t want to doesn’t mean I can just stop working.” He’s not wrong, he just sort of missed my point. Point is, we all have a shit ton of responsibilities. Let’s just stop adding to them. Stop offering to bring things to parties when no one asked you to.
This Self Care Sunday I challenge you to say “No” to one thing this week. I also challenge you to challenge a friend- check in on her and see what she has said “no” to.
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