People mean well, but they can say the STUPIDEST things about your breast cancer diagnosis. If you’re lucky, their stupidity may tickle your funny bone and at least give you a giggle. However at a time when you are feeling vulnerable, it’s not uncommon to feel intense disappointment, hurt and anger at the insensitive things people you expect more from say to you. Excuse my “Sally Sunshining” for a moment, but these insensitive comments may be a gift. Breast Cancer treatment is all about removing the malignant tumor from your body, and truth is, most of us have some malignant people in our lives as well. Consider these moronic statements as the malignant people just raising their hands saying “Me! I’m the dumb ass who does not deserve your time, your energy, your love! Kick ME to the curb!” They’re making it EASY for you! (Ok, I’m totally over simplifying, and I acknowledge the intense pain that can accompany removing toxic people.) You may be better off in the long run without these people. And of course, there are those that honestly mean well but are just lacking in ability to offer appropriate support. (I affectionately refer to this group as the “ding dongs.”)
Have any favorite LEAST HELPFUL things that people have said to you since diagnosis? Any strategies to deal with them? Share in comments below!